Son And Daughter

The speaker describes trying to combine the roles of “son and daughter,” then struggling with expectations attached to being a man. The lyrics move from effort and disappointment toward restlessness: the speaker asks what love will mean as it begins, imagines travelling in search of something new, and finally wants to get away. The repeated wish for the other person to be a woman gives the song a tense, unresolved emotional ending.

The “cap just didn’t fit” is an idiom meaning that a role did not suit the person trying to fill it. “Shovel shit” is blunt language for hard, unpleasant work, suggesting one expectation placed on men. The phrase “fisher of men” echoes the idea of drawing people in or guiding them, while “a brand new word for day” may suggest a search for a fresh way to understand life.

The lyrics can be read as questioning rigid gender roles, since the speaker points out how society expects a man to behave. But the repeated demand, “I want you to be a woman,” may also sound like the speaker imposing a role on someone else. It is not clear whether this is a plea for change, a complaint, or a contradiction in the speaker’s own thinking. That uncertainty makes the song feel less like a simple statement about equality and more like a struggle over identity, freedom, and expectations.